I am a mother of ten children, and I love each of them with all my heart. But I do not love them in exactly the same way. How could I?
Each child is different—different in personality, in temperament, in strength, in need, in desire. Each was born at a different point in my life. With each, I was a different kind of mother.
With my oldest son, I was young, energetic, and eager to build. Our family worked together on a farm: milking goats and cows, plowing with draft horses (yes, we had a pair of Percheron draft horses!), butchering chickens, mowing fields, and planting gardens. We were partners in labor, and our relationship grew strong in that labor. That is a kind of love.
With others, it has been quieter—watching them learn to wrestle, playing in the pool, going camping, attending ballet recitals, navigating sorrow or anxiety, or simply spending long hours at home while the rest of the world moved around us. Each child has received my full love, but none has received it in the same form.
And this, I believe, is a picture of the Church.
God’s Love Is Personal and Particular
God is love. We know this from Scripture. We know it from the Catechism. We know it from the Cross. But the love of God is not cold or abstract. It is personal. It is particular. It is measured to each soul according to what is needed.
St. Thomas Aquinas teaches in the Summa Theologica that God moves all things according to their nature. He does not violate or suppress the uniqueness of His creatures. He perfects them. Therefore, God’s love meets each soul as it is, and leads it to Him not by erasing its identity, but by sanctifying it.
He does the same thing with His Church.
Throughout history, God has raised up religious orders—communities of men and women who leave the world and bind themselves to poverty, chastity, and obedience—for different purposes, in different places, with different strengths. These orders were not interchangeable. They were not competing. They were cooperating with God’s providence to meet the needs of their time.
Like children in a family, each order was born in a particular context. Each has its own “personality.” And God, who is the Father of all, uses each for a different purpose.
The Church Is One, but Her Gifts Are Many
St. Paul writes, “There are different kinds of spiritual gifts but the same Spirit; there are different forms of service but the same Lord” (1 Corinthians 12:4–5). He is describing the mystical body of Christ, in which each member has a function. The eye is not the ear. The hand is not the foot. Yet all belong to one body.
Religious orders are like this. They are not divisions in the Church. They are expressions of her vitality. They are not in competition with one another. They are brothers and sisters with different gifts.
The Catechism teaches that “the religious state is thus one way of experiencing a ‘more intimate’ consecration, rooted in Baptism and dedicated totally to God” (CCC 916). But even within that consecration, there are variations. The Catechism explains further that the diversity of charisms—spiritual gifts and graces—is part of God’s plan to build up the Church in love (CCC 798–801).
The Benedictines: A Foundation of Peace and Order
Let us consider the Benedictines. Founded by St. Benedict in the sixth century, this order arose during a time of chaos and collapse. The Roman Empire had fallen. Civilization was crumbling. Violence and ignorance were spreading across Europe.
Into that storm, God sent a man of silence, stability, and prayer.
St. Benedict established monasteries that became islands of peace. His Rule—“ora et labora,” prayer and work—created a rhythm of life that sanctified time. The monks sang the psalms, copied books, tilled the land, educated boys, and preserved learning for the future. They were not missionaries, but they saved civilization.
God loved the world through them.
Like the quiet child in the family, the Benedictines did not draw attention to themselves. But without them, the household of the Church could not have stood.
The Franciscans: Joyful Poverty and Evangelical Simplicity
In the thirteenth century, a new need arose. Wealth was increasing. Cities were growing. The temptation of materialism was spreading fast. Many had forgotten the Gospel, or thought it belonged only in churches and cloisters.
God raised up St. Francis.
He was wild, joyful, humble, and utterly in love with Jesus Christ. He renounced everything—family wealth, social position, comfort—and embraced radical poverty. His brothers preached barefoot, sang in the streets, served the sick, and rejoiced in suffering.
The Franciscans brought the Gospel to the highways and hedgerows. They reminded the Church that Christ was born in a stable and had nowhere to lay His head.
God’s love, expressed through St. Francis, took on the form of poverty and joy.
In a family, there is sometimes a child who is a bright spark—creative, spontaneous, always dancing. That child brings something needed. So did the Franciscans.
The Dominicans: Preaching Truth with Fire and Reason
Around the same time as St. Francis, another holy man rose up: St. Dominic. He saw the danger of heresy, especially the Albigensian heresy that denied the goodness of the body and the created world. He understood that false teaching destroys souls.
God raised up the Dominicans as preachers of truth.
They were trained in theology and philosophy. They studied deeply, spoke clearly, and preached forcefully. They lived in community, embraced poverty, and traveled widely. They fought error not with weapons but with wisdom.
The Church needed this. The Gospel needed defenders. The truth needed a voice.
God’s love, expressed through the Dominicans, became a sword—not to wound, but to divide truth from error.
In the family of God, this was the child with a sharp mind and a ready tongue—the one who argued at the dinner table, but always for what was right.
The Carmelites: A Hidden Life of Love and Prayer
In another corner of the Church, God called souls to something different—something hidden.
The Carmelite order, with roots stretching back to the desert hermits of Mount Carmel, developed into a quiet powerhouse of contemplative prayer. Saints like Teresa of Ávila and John of the Cross taught that the soul must be stripped of all attachments in order to ascend the mountain of union with God.
The Carmelite path is not active. It is interior. It is not focused on the world, but on the Bridegroom.
In times of confusion, God raised up mystics—souls who dwelled in silence, suffered in union with Christ, and offered their lives as hidden sacrifices for the Church.
The Carmelites remind us that the deepest love is not always spoken. Sometimes, it is lived in secret.
Every family has a quiet child, the one who feels things deeply, says little, and prays much. The Carmelites are that child.
Jesuits, Salesians, Missionaries, and More
The diversity of orders did not end in the Middle Ages. As history unfolded, God continued to raise up founders in response to new needs.
When education was needed, He gave us the Jesuits. When young men and women in cities needed care, He gave us the Salesians. When foreign nations needed evangelization, He gave us missionaries, martyrs, and saints from every continent.
Each new order arose not by accident but by providence. God looked at the world—its wounds, its needs, its sins—and He called forth someone to answer.
This is not disorder. This is divine order.
No Competition, Only Cooperation
St. Paul reminds us, “If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it; if one part is honored, all the parts share its joy” (1 Corinthians 12:26). In the Church, we do not compete. We complete one another.
The Benedictine monk does not look down on the Franciscan friar. The Dominican preacher does not dismiss the Carmelite nun. Each has his place. Each does his work. Each is needed.
God’s love is perfect. And perfect love is particular.
He does not use every order for every task. He uses each one where it is strongest.
We Must Resist Envy and Imitation
One danger in the spiritual life is envy—the feeling that someone else’s gift is better, holier, or more beloved by God.
This happens in families. One child may think, “Mother spends more time with him than with me.” But the mother knows that the time is not favoritism. It is simply what that child needs.
So too in the Church. We must not try to imitate another’s path just because it looks holier. We must ask: What has God asked of me?
St. Catherine of Siena said, “Be who God meant you to be, and you will set the world on fire.” That is the call of every religious order. And it is the call of every soul.
God Is a Father, Not a Factory
Finally, we must remember that God is not running a factory. He is raising a family.
Factories produce identical products. Families raise unique children.
The same love flows through all. But that love is expressed in different ways.
To the Dominican, God gives a mind for truth. To the Franciscan, a heart for the poor. To the Benedictine, a rhythm of prayer. To the Carmelite, a chamber of silence. To each, God gives His love. But He gives it differently.
Conclusion: Diversity in Unity Is the Mark of God’s Family
When I look at my ten children, I see ten lives shaped by the same mother and father, the same home, the same prayers. Yet each one is profoundly different.
That is not a flaw. It is a glory. It is beautiful.
So it is in the Church.
The religious orders—like the saints, like the sacraments, like the people of God—are varied because the needs of the world are varied, and the gifts of the Holy Spirit are rich.
Let us not seek to flatten the Church into uniformity. Let us rejoice in the beauty of her diversity—her cloisters and missions, her schools and hermitages, her scholars and her servants.
God has many children. And He loves them all.
But He loves them differently.
Mrs. Dania C. Michael, O.P.
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Notes
Catechism of the Catholic Church. 2nd ed. Vatican: Libreria Editrice Vaticana, 1997. https://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/_INDEX.HTM
New American Bible Revised Edition. United States Conference of Catholic Bishops. 1 Corinthians, Matthew, Gospel texts. https://bible.usccb.org/
Aquinas, Thomas. Summa Theologica. Translated by the Fathers of the English Dominican Province. New York: Benziger Bros., 1947. https://classicalliberalarts.com/category/summa-theologica/
Aristotle. Nicomachean Ethics. Translated by W. D. Ross. Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2009. https://classicalliberalarts.com/library/nicomachean-ethics-aristotle/
